As much as she’s my mom, and I have to love her, I do not love her personality.
Everything that comes out of her mouth has to be negative, or subliminally implies disdain or negativity. Sometimes, she’ll be really straightforward about it. It doesn’t even have to be about me, it can be about other people.
Maybe I’m just nit-picking, but I recall during the last Olympic Opening Ceremony, during one of the countries’ entrance, (I forgot which country,) she had to say out loud, “This country’s people have horribly nasty teeth and ugly smiles.” Really? Why do you have to be so judgmental? And so what if they do … personally, I didn’t think much of that country’s people and physical appearances. Like what does it even matter?
The other day, I told her that my boyfriend wanted to join the Navy after he graduates because he wants to serve his country in the Navy’s Nurse Core. She had to say, “Wow, so by the time he’s done serving and finishes school after that, he will be 30,” with just the nastiest tone.
I say back to her, “So what if he will be 30?”
She says, “He will be too old to get married and have kids. You should just leave him and not waste your time.”
Excuse me?? I had to point out to her people are living longer, therefore people are getting married and having children later in life, and given the current status of our social and economic environment, people just cannot afford to get married young like they did 20 years ago. Even so, what is WRONG with getting married at 30? Times are changing. It’s okay to get married later. Ughhh.
Third example was when she saw my school’s uniform. She had to say, “I thought you go to a nursing school. Your uniform looks like you work for a bakery.” It’s like this woman has never seen scrubs before.
It’s a lot. It’s a lot of the small comments she says that piles up and is really ticking me off. Most of the time, they have to go back to her. Like when I told her how my pillow is giving me neck cramps, she has to say, “well my pillow is the same as yours and I don’t have neck cramps.” Bro, you ain’t using my pillow! Or the time I shared with her the facts I learned, something about Asians and how they predominantly have mono-eyelids. (I forgot.) Of course she says, “Well I have natural double eyelids, so I am very beautiful. I passed them onto you, so you should appreciate.” …… Um okayyyyyy????? No comment.
I’m done ranting. It’s so annoying. I don’t want to deal with her anymore. Every time I talk to her, it turns into an argument with me trying to condition her to be less narcissistic and more open minded. It doesn’t work. /Sigh